Many men adopt the approach of trying to become a woman’s friend. They believe that if they can befriend the woman, the woman will be easier to seduce and more accepting of their advances. Nothing could be further from the truth.

If you want to seduce a woman or begin a relationship with her, then you must be honest with her, and in doing so, be honest with yourself. Attempting to befriend women that you wish to sleep with is going about things backwards, and it will not work.

Remember this very important fact; most women usually decide if a man will be a potential lover or a friend within the first two minutes of their very first interaction.

It takes some women as little as ten seconds to decide this. This is one area where women are actually very decisive. If you have not made the correct impression within this small time frame as a potential lover, you will immediately be placed into the ‘friend category’.

It is possible to get out of the friend category, but you’re making things unnecessarily hard for yourself. Some women will never let you out of the friend category once you have fallen into it.

It will be thoroughly explained to you in other posts how to always and only be seen by the women you desire as a potential lover. But for now, you must completely dispel from your mind that attempting to become a woman’s friend, advisor or therapist, will allow you to be with this women in the future.

The more you treat her like a good friend, the more you offer her advice, and the more you attempt to fix her emotional problems, the further away you’ll be from being with this woman. The more you be her nice friend, the more you will only be her nice friend.

Men get confused and misguided when it comes to this. They tend to believe that if the woman is talking to them, and if the woman is confiding in them, that there is a chance of succeeding with this woman. After all, this woman wouldn’t be talking and confiding in me if she wasn’t interested in being with me. Right..?

Lots of men waste lots of time doing this. They take things slowly, befriending women and offering them advice. In doing so they go against their own nature, which is truth. And in truth, they want more than a friendship.

Some men experience guilt shame and fear regarding their true motives whilst interacting with a woman they desire to be with. Hatched out of fear, these men then attempt to seduce women via covert psychological manipulation. This in truth is exactly what is happening when a man befriends a woman without clarifying his true intentions.

Some men hold the false belief that when they befriend a woman, she will eventually let her guard down, and somehow miraculously want to be with the man.

This is not the way it works. 99% of the time it will lead to heartache and confusion for the man. The woman may even go out with the man and proceed to initiate interactions with other men in front of him. The confused man will then often ask the woman why she isn’t interested in him; after all, they have spent all this time together.

The answer 99% of the time will be, “I just don’t see you as a lover or feel that way towards you. But I would definitely like to remain friends with you.” The man then feels confused and hurt.

This is because the man unwittingly went about chasing the woman of his desires the incorrect way. Ultimately, he was attempting to seduce the woman whilst deceitfully hiding his true feelings towards her and continued behaving as a friend. He held the inner belief that the woman should somehow know what he is feeling, and what his intentions are. He repressed his desires and chose to act like a friend whilst secretly hoping that the woman would initiate a relationship.

There is no need for a man to waste so much time and energy being a ‘nice friend’ to a woman he desires. You should immediately cut to the chase, and upon the very first interaction with a woman make your intentions clearly known and stop wasting your time chasing women the incorrect way.

Some men think that they are being a ‘nice friend’ when really they are just being deceitful and hiding their true feelings towards her because they fear rejection.

Make your true intentions clear from the very first interaction and do not fall into this time wasting trap. After all, even if the woman does reject your flirtatious advances, you can always still be her friend if you desire to be so.

Be honest with yourself about what you want from the woman and start to act upon this immediately. Women are flattered when a man is interested in them, not offended. They are offended when they think you are their friend and then find out that you are harbouring secret sexual and emotional desires for them.

Fear of rejection is like any other fear and is founded upon the illusion of need and lack of knowledge. Once you learn the correct seduction techniques your fear of rejection will diminish. You will be able to speak you true feelings to a woman without offending her or without fear of rejection.

Being friends with a woman is great. But don’t lie to yourself if you really want more than a friendship….and don’t lie to her about it too. It doesn’t work…