What we think when mixed with strong emotional content has its own special way of coming true. One purpose of the universe is to transmute our thoughts and emotions into their physical equivalent. When we fear something, it is charged with a strong emotional content. All the fine intricacies of the universe are attempting to transmute this fear into it’s physical equivalent.

When we start to fear losing our drop dead gorgeous girlfriend, the physical equivalent isn’t far behind. Our actions and sub-communications begin to repel her on a subliminal level. Insecurities, jealousy and neediness creep into our personality. And before you know it, if your not careful…its over.

It’s the law of nature trying to reward us with the physical equivalent of what we think about most. It makes no distinction between positive or negative thoughts. It only attempts to make them come true. So how do we know if we fear losing her as a girlfriend ?

Some ‘fear of loss’ symptoms;

Attempting to control your girlfriend too much. Controlling when and where she goes out, who she sees and what she does. Remember, what you try to control,…is actually controlling you.

Not doing certain things that you would otherwise do because you fear judgement from her. Which might result in loss.

Not expressing your true feelings to her. You tend not to tell her that you are disappointed or upset about something because you fear the backlash of your comments. You fear what she will think of you, because if she thinks the wrong thing it might result in loss.

Not being honest with her because if you told her the truth she might not like it, resulting in loss.

Trying to constantly impress her and rock her world, instead of just being yourself.

Seeing her all the time in an attempt to force her to become closer to you, because you fear loss.

All of the above symptoms are major turn offs for women. They all seem natural when your are in the mist of your fear, but all the actions and reactions come from a place of weakness.

Remember you don’t own your girlfriend, and you do not need her at all, despite what you think. When you come to truly realise this and live accordingly, ironically you will have a much stronger relationship. Because you fear losing her, she controls the relationship. This also tips the scales of masculinity and femininity out of balance. She cannot be feminine enough because she is in control of the relationship and she will become dissatisfied at her core.

Now that you know the symptoms, what are the cause’s ?

The number one cause is that you are using her for validation.

She becomes your only source of reward and entertainment. You know this deep down. You become addicted to this because it feels good and it’s easy to come by. It doesn’t require as much work as other things in life before you get rewarded.

We use her as validation because we are losing power somewhere else in our lives. We desire to fill the vacuum of that power loss with validation from her. Some people turn to drugs or alcohol, others to the woman in their lives. It’s the easiest way for us to feel a temporary satisfaction within our lives. We do this because it is in our nature to resist change.

It’s in our nature to seek pleasure and resist pain. Deep down we know we must endure some pain to eventually repair a problem, but we avoid it. It’s so much harder to address the real problem and gain our personal power back through the correct channels. So we resist this and seek external validation from her. It’s the easiest way.

But in doing this we give her power over us. Because we rely on her as our form of validation we begin to fear the loss of it. Just like not being able to have a drink when you feel like you need one. It becomes like an addiction. We continually look to her to fill the vacuum and our personality and behaviors become altered and weak.

This then becomes expressed outwardly by displaying all the symptoms of ‘fear of loss’. Resulting in your woman losing attraction for you and ultimately leaving you. Remember, the number one reason a woman leaves is because she loses her attraction towards you.

And remember, she isn’t attracted to you because of the way you look…she is attracted to you because of the way you act and behave. The way you think, your demeanor and character.

Look deep within yourself and find the area in your life where you are losing power. Address the problem. Realise that the longer you ignore it, the more damage it will do. If your life was inwardly perfect you would treat your girlfriend perfectly and her attraction for you would be enormous.

You would not come across as controlling, jealous, insecure or needy. Fix your problems internally and they will not manifest externally. When you attempt to only fix them externally you will be forever chasing your tail. The same problems will only keep resurfacing because they are created from within you, and that is where they must be repaired.

Repair your own life from the inside out and you will cease to use your woman or women for validation. Once you can accomplish this you will never have the fear of losing your girlfriend no matter how drop dead gorgeous she is…