Flirting, what a simple process, yet it is riddled with such complex subliminal psychological undertows that even seasoned experts can get it wrong…

There are countless techniques and methods that all claim to be the correct way to flirt with women. The bottom line is that there is no absolute specific correct method to flirt with women.

All women are different and all men are different. What works on one girl will not necessarily work on another, and if a man is successful using a particular technique, it doesn’t mean that if you emulate it you will be successful too.

The purpose of flirtation is to play and have fun with the woman, to build rapport and trust. It causes you and her to establish a connection that is based on sexual tension and attraction, rather than friendship.

When you flirt with a woman it allows her to experience what you would be like as a lover or a boyfriend. In the process of you flirting with her she will be subconsciously experiencing how creative you are, and how much fun you might be whilst in a relationship with you.

If you cannot have fun with her whilst flirting, then how can she possibly have fun with you in a relationship? This is why flirting with a woman correctly is very important. It is virtually impossible to get a date with a woman without flirting with her first.

You must acknowledge this and give it the attention and practice it requires for you to become good at it. This may seem like an extremely awkward and somewhat painful process for some men…but…like anything you practice; you will become better at it. Practice some more on top of that, and you’ll become very good at it. A man, who can flirt well with women, always has women available for him.

The problem is that most men do not find this fun because they have negative emotions attached to the process. Some of these typical emotions are rejection and humiliation, yet we can categorise all of them under the simple heading of ‘fear’.

When you flirt with a woman, no matter who she is, you must detach yourself from the outcome. This technique can be used to lower the fear factor for shy guys. This is the most powerful psychological tool that you can develop. You will always have your goal to be with the woman in the back of your mind, but in the forefront of you mind you must practice total detachment.

When you are in a detached state of mind, you can allow yourself to act freely and not get hung up on the outcome. You are detached from the outcome of the interaction. Your mind stays present and doesn’t wander off into the future thinking about how this is going to turn out.

Successful outcome or not…it’s really not relevant to you. Of course you desire success, but allow detachment to be the tool you use to accomplish this.

Reduce the pressure of the interaction for yourself. A good technique to help you achieve a state of detachment is to pretend that you already have a girlfriend. Concentrate, and imagine how gorgeous she is,…and how does it make you feel knowing she’s already at home waiting for you. But before you go home to see her…let’s go and chat to this little fox first.

This method is just telling your psych that you already have what you want and there is no pressure for it to work out, therefore you can have some fun.

There’s about four really good ways to flirt with women and they’re all quiet different from each other. Each one will be explained in intricate detail in separate posts and each one requires different skill levels.

But for now I want to leave a little something for the ultra shy guys who generally do not, and will not talk to women because they are just so out of practice.

From now on, to get back in the saddle, you just need to say a simple ‘Hi’, to every pretty girl you see. Nothing more,…nothing less. It doesn’t matter where you are, on a train or bus, walking down the street or in a shopping centre; it’s just a simple ‘hi’….and smile too. You don’t even have to try to continue the conversation.

This will at the very least get you actually opening your mouth and saying something to pretty women. Some might frown at you and some might ignore you, it doesn’t matter because most of them will say ‘hi’ back to you.

This can be your first step in the right direction to help you become a man who can easily flirt with women. And before you know you’ll be flirting with women causing them to feel the emotions they so love.