Another cool little crazy trick to help you build connection with her is the ‘something near your lip trick’. Wait until she has a sip of her cappuccino or a piece of cake and then look at her as if you’re slightly taken back and say “you have something just above your lip”

Now be careful here because this can make her self-conscious and it won’t be conducive to her being in a relaxed open mood. But if you do it right it can work in your favor. Ensure that you come across as totally relaxed when you say this and make sure you have a relaxed posture.

After you point just slightly above your own lip to show her where this tiny piece of chocolate is, allow her to try to wipe it off once. When she fails to remove it, just look at her lovingly and say ‘do you mind’, as you begin to slowly reach your hand up to it.

Then take your time and whilst using your thumb, just ever so gently wipe the corner of her top lip. Then just say to her, ‘all gone’ or ‘that’s better’, or ‘perfect again’, and continue the conversation as if nothing happened by maybe saying something along the lines of, “…anyway, as I was saying…”

It’s best to do this while you are in mid conversation rather than her. If it’s the other way around you’re interrupting her half way through what she is saying and women love to know that you’re listening to them, so interrupt your own conversation.

What this does is it allows you to share a tiny little caring intimate moment. Don’t underestimate the power of this crazy little trick. After you’ve gently caressed her top lip to remove this tiny imaginary imperfection you can say something to her like, “…you looked kind of cute with it there…and I wasn’t going to tell you…”

If she profusely tries to wipe it off herself and you know she’s not going to let you touch her, you can simply turn it around into a compliment by saying, “It’s fine now, and it’s gone…it was easy to notice a little imperfection on a perfect landscape….anyway….as I was saying…”, and continue on with your conversation.

So now we have used all the features of her face to remind us of the things we can do to increase our connection with her and build more attraction, let’s move onto her body.

Throughout this coffee dateUltimate First Date Guide

Learn the exact social dynamic techniques that ensure seduction. Guaranteed to help you succeed on a first date. Know exactly what to do and say!!. you must try to touch her at least twice in a way that cannot be mistaken as a casual social touch. You should also touch her in a casual manner twice too. The casual manner is easy as you can just place your hand on her lower back to casually guide her to her seat. Or on the way out you could casually touch her by guiding her through the doorway.

You can also touch her casually a few times throughout your conversation by just touching her hand for a moment as you share a laugh or agree on something. Also use any opportunity you may come across to pass her something or ask her to pass you something, but of course do not make this obvious.

As you take something from her, like a spoon etc, ensure that you casually touch her hand as you do so. Likewise if you pass her something, ensure she cannot take it off you without having to touch you first. Of course you will not make this obvious or force the issue, but if the opportunity arises make sure you utilize it. This casual touching is just getting her used to touching you.

It’s the non social touch that you’ve got to get right. This lets her know that you’re comfortable displaying your affection via touching and also reassures her that you are definitely interested in her romantically. You can be the smoothest talker in the world but you’re going to have to touch her at some stage as well.

Some guys have no trouble with this and others have great difficulty. Try these methods to get you started. Notice something she is wearing on her hand or wrist such as a bracelet or a ring. Curiously ask her to show it to you. As she brings her hand forward to show you gently take her hand with your hand while you look at the item in question.

Compliment it, and ask her if there is a story behind it. For example, take a sip of your coffee and as your putting it down say something like, “…that’s the second time it’s caught my eye…show me your bracelet… (hold her hand gently for about four seconds)…hmm, it nice…it suits you…” and very slowly let her hand go and perhaps ask her if it was a gift off someone.

Listen to her little story about it and talk to her very briefly about it and then curiously notice her other hand and say, “…show me your other hand for a second… (Hold her hand gently for about four seconds)…hmm, this hand feels just as nice as your other one…” Then slowly let go of her hand and smile at her with a cheeky grin.

You can tweak this slightly or change it totally but the main purpose it to get you touching her in a manner that is beyond casual. You must try to achieve at least two non casual touches in the half hour you spend with her.

There are going to be times when the womanUnderground Seduction

The latest high quality seduction package at an unbeatable price...Learn the secrets...$15 discount.. is enjoying herself so much that she is going to try to get you to stay for longer. Try not to fall into this trap as it will usually not work in your favor. Although she seems to be enjoying herself, the time you’ve spent together is usually still too short for anything else to happen but more of the same.

It’s much better to pull the pin and leave the coffee date nice and short no matter how good things are progressing. In fact the better things are going; the better it is to keep it short. You may have the coffee date mastered but it will rarely work in your favor to stay any longer than 40 minutes.

This is because it takes 99% women around 8 hours of courtship before anything more significant will happen. If you continued the coffee date for a couple of hours you’ll progress no further with her than you would if you had just followed the recommended time limitation. On top of that she might actually become bored with you. If she liked you, she’ll go on the second date with you whether you leave early or not. If you stay longer there is a chance she may not.

In some rare cases you’ll intuitively know its ok to stay longer because you can sense that something is going to happen, but be forewarned that usually it does not. It’s a shame to get the whole coffee date right and then blow your chances with her only because you stayed to long and the environment you were in wasn’t conducive to any further progress with her.

When you build a strong connection with her and you don’t start to take things to the next level, that’s when she becomes bored and annoyed. This is what happens when you hang around too long on the coffee date. You can’t take things to the next level. Get out of there and let your mastery of the second date close the deal for you.

Try to be the one who says that it’s time to say goodbye for now. Ask her if she’d like you to walk her to her car. Besides the fact that it is gentlemanly to offer, there is always an opportunity for you to kiss her in a more private surrounding than there was in the coffee shop.

Tell her you enjoyed yourself and that you’d like to see her again. Ask her if she is interested in seeing you again. You can try something like, “Hey I know it was only short, but I really enjoyed your company and I’d love to meet up with you again… (Sounds good)… ok that’s great, I’ll give you a call and hopefully you’ll keep Saturday afternoon free for me.” And on that note, part ways.

It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known her or how strong or weak you connection was with her before this date, you’re going to have to start from scratch when you take her out for coffee for the first time.

Four nights ago you might have shared an alcohol fueled night with her passionately kissing. That night is long gone. When it comes to the first coffee date you can’t rely on the connection you had with her four nights ago to carry you through. Of course it will help a little but generally speaking you’ll find that you have to start from scratch again when you take her out on a coffee date.

If you incorporate all the techniques you’ve learned here and use them on the coffee date, you’ll be miles and miles ahead of the average guy…

(The Coffee Date…Part 1)